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nblm reblogged babushka

ace moodboard!

nblm reblogged timeskip

It's Trans Awareness Week!

heros-shade -

Be aware...

nblm reblogged timeskip
archfey -

what's the vibe y'all 

persephone -


nblm reblogged timeskip
archfey -

instead of presenting myself as "feminine" or "masculine" i tend to lean towards "clown" or "fool" 

nblm reblogged thoughts
thoughts -

its almost over but happy ace awareness week!!! some reminders:

πŸ’œ aces have always been and will always be lgbtq+

πŸ’œ yes, even straight aces and cis aces

πŸ’œ aces are not cringy, bored, attention-seeking or homophobic

πŸ’œ aces are not all white

πŸ’œ aces are not confused kids. talk to elders in the community and read up on a-spec historical figures!

πŸ’œ aces are not selfishly taking a piece of the nonexistent resource pie

πŸ’œ aces face unique struggles that must be recognized. the community's not oppression olympics

nblm reblogged greatkingrat
star0rice -

So it's Ace Awareness week or smthn, so here's a shoutout to all my ace peeps who are sex positive. It's never talked about when we want sexual relationships but how fucked it feels to not experience sexual attraction.

So shout out to all of those who get it and understand. Sometimes its very confusing to be ace and that's alright~

nblm reblogged mcatnip
ok-computer -

uh oh! it's

~Real Gay Hours~

nblm reblogged babushka

To feel rarelly sexual attraction or only under very specific circumstances

Umbrella term for anyone falling between the allo and ace spectrum


X / X / X    befunky collage tool

X / Z / X   Gray Ace flag by Auriga La Fresne = this moodboard!

X / X / X    I am also at tumblr

nblm reblogged king-mars

Hello gang here are some things I learned about binding

king-mars -

I (finally) got a binder and learned a thing or two so im about to tell you a thing or two.

This could get long so im hiding the post under the cut also feel free to repour with more things

  • They are not as soft as they look in the pictures. Seriously I'd look at the pictures and be like "damn that lowkey looks hella comfy" but it ain't. The back isnt too bad but the compression part at the front can get kind of annoying.
  • Measure! Measure again! Don't stop measuring until you are 100% sure you know your size! Because nothing sucks more than waiting a week for your binder only to send it back because it's too small.
  • Get a good one! It can be tempting to buy a $12 one on amazon but 1. they're not as safe and 2. won't last you as long so you're gonna spend more money in the long run anyway. (We might be biased, but my friends and I all have Gc2b half binders and love them. Also, I've heard that if you take care of them they can last a long time so yeet) 
  • If the cost is a burden, try applying to different binder donation programs. That's how I got mine
  • DO NOT WEAR IT FOR MORE THAN 8 HOURS. I know you've probably heard it a million times before but seriously don't. One of my friends messed up their skin really bad and cant bind anymore because they wore their binder too much in middle school. 
  • ALSO, DO NOT EXERCISE IN IT. You won't be able to breathe. Trust me, even light exercise can be a struggle when in doubt wear a sports bra and a large jacket/hoodie.
  • It makes you really flat. More than you think it will. Especially with a button-down that was a surreal experience.
  • YES, THERE IS A SLIGHT "Bump." Its seriously not that big dysphoria just makes you hyper-focus on it. (I spent a whole day asking my friends "Okay but is it really flat because there's a bump I swear." And they would always say "Mars you have a flatter chest than most of the guys here it's fine.") You just gotta roll with it. 


  • Here's how to wash the thing:
    • Fill a sink with cold water and throw the binder in. Swish it around a little bit.
    • Add a VERY small amount of laundry detergent. I use unscented but try to use one for sensitive skin because it's tight and in close contact with more sensitive areas of skin. 
    • Swish Swish we washing now
    • Think of it like a loving, gentle washing machine. 
    • If there are any areas with like, deodorant marks or a number of other things, rub at them with your fingers.
    • Take it out of the water and rinse it thoroughly. (Take your time on this step, your skin will thank you)
    • squeeze it gently to get some of the water out. Don't wring it because that can stretch it out and don't squeeze too hard or you'll wrinkle it which ive found can make it harder to put on. 
    • I fold mine up in a towel and then like,,,press down on it if that makes any sense? It makes it dry faster.
    • Hang it up bros you're done. You can use a normal hanger but I use a kids hanger because that's what I use to hang up my jeans


  • Stretches to do:
    • Bring your elbows behind your back and try to get your shoulder blades to touch!
    • Bend your back over a chair like when you pop your back!
    • If you need a break for a second, make a fist and put it under your binder, and kind of pull the front panel away from your chest. I do this sometimes and its a lifesaver
    • Take deep breaths! Also, I keep seeing advice to cough and I don't know what that achieves but I do it anyway. (If you cant take a deep breath than homeboy I hate to break it to you but you have the wrong size.)

That's all the things I know for now! I hope this was helpful and if you have advice feel free to repour with additions. :-)

nblm reblogged feebooks
feebooks -

Don’t ever be afraid of being yourself 

Don’t be ashamed of who you are.

Whatever sexuality same sex, different sex or both or multiple partners

cis or trans or non-binary 

Or whatever you identify as

be proud of who you are :)

Pride spooders for spooky month!  Feel free to use the as icons or whatever, but please credit me if you do

nblm reblogged lime
greatkingrat -

Not to be queer on main but having a boy to smooch would be really nice right about now ._.

nblm reblogged angelicaphelion
kirby -

happy ace ACCEPTANCE week time for a little snippet of history


i remember a few years ago the ace community using the card suits to represent sexual/romo attraction combos. here's what i remember:

  • hearts: asexual romantic
  • spades: asexual aromantic

((reblog this and correct me or add on with little snippets of ace community history!))

angelicaphelion -

Less recognized, but still used sometimes: ace of diamonds for demiromantic asexuals and ace of clubs for grayromantic (and other aces!)

Also, many aces wear a black ring on the middle finger of their right hand to show that they're ace!

nblm reblogged greatkingrat
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nblm reblogged aro-fae
sparky -

message to wlw / nblw [esp. questioning]:Β 

hey!! if you aren't often attracted to traditionally feminine women / the typical heteropatriarchal model of a woman,Β that is okay. if you find yourself most attracted to gnc / butch / masculine-of-center / etc. women/nbs, that does notΒ mean you're "straight in denial" or "lying" or "faking" or "secretly into men" or anything.Β 

it just means that you are often attracted to a specific kind of person and that isΒ okay. β™₯

nblm reblogged witchesflower

Happy ace awareness week!

heros-shade -

I hope all my fellow acespecs are having a wonderful week!

nblm reblogged sparky

ViHart is a treasure to humanity

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sparky -

i love the feeling of safety u get from being around other queer, finding ppl who you know at once respect gender feelings and will be full of gay yearning with u? priceless. magnificent. perfect.

nblm reblogged heros-shade
sparky -

good morning everyone! what a perfect day to cherish trans men

nblm reblogged heros-shade
kirby -

good afternoon everyone what a wonderful time to cherish trans women

Okay I'm so sorry for the spam but I'm going to go fix the url in my about page, and this should be done...

nblm reblogged timeskip
timeskip -

Anyone else having problems linking things? My sideblog @nblm is struggling, and multiple links just lead to "[what i'm trying to link]" instead of going to the actual site I'm trying for...

some testing of links using my own accounts on this or other sites

nblm timeskipp bungostraydogs Timeskipped

nblm -

So under the cut I tested some links to other sites and the ONLY one that worked was the link to my AO3 account, which I copypasted the url of into the link box. So maybe that's the solution? let me check. If this works, it's probably something about the https at the beginning and/or the slashes???

nblm reblogged nblm
An Anonymous user asked:

your link to your main timeskip links to nowhere? what happened?

nblm -

Oh, weird! I'm not sure what happened, I didn't change my url or anything... Maybe it got messed up when I edited something else? For now, I'll link on this post and check out what's going on ^^


EDIT: seems that this link doesn't work either, I'm so sorry. I'm going to elaborate more later but... yeah it's not working out rn :(

nblm -

Okay, it looks like there's a problem with links in general, so I can't fix it afaik! Everything I link is going to[what i'm trying to link], if that makes sense? The page it's trying to go to doesn't exist, because I'm not trying to link to it... The one right there is going to, which also doesn't exist, so I don't think it's a problem with my linking it? I think it's a waterfall problem...

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